I personally love threesomes, more attention on me, more attention on you, extra pleasure all round! However, I have had some 'awkward' threesomes and I believe it comes down to 1 thing......lack of communication. It can come out in many different ways, this includes someone feeling 'left out' or feeling jealous SO lets talk about communication and understanding threesomes before, during and after plus some commonly asked questions.
Communication Before
When it comes to couple bookings I always like to ask the following questions when I get a enquiry:
What are you wanting to gain from this experience? ie watching your partner be with someone else, a sense of excitement and naughtiness or to tick off a couple goal?
Is this to celebrate a special occasion or just because?
Have you had a prior experiences inviting someone else into your bedroom?
Those three questions will give me huge insights into what you're wanting to experience/explore and if you've had any experience before with a 3rd.
After those initial three questions, I ask about boundaries and want to find out what they are comfortable with ie, are all parties involved in kissing, touching, penetration etc do they have a particular idea of how they'd like the booking to go ie fantasy. Ideally, I will message with both parties involved.
Communication During
I am a big fan of communication, I don't think its un-sexy to ask for more or less of something. During play, its key to check in and ask if that feels good, would you like it if I did more or less of X or could you touch me here.
While you can get lost in the moment (and so you should) its important to be aware of all parties, feeling 'left out' or 'ignored' can be a real turn off and feel hurtful. Keep in mind, touch, verbal and non verbal communication are just as sexy and important! Check in, if the vibe feels off and just like anything, it's okay to take a break or stop.
I love when laughter is involved, after all this should be a fun and sensual experience.
Communication After
I love to start the 'after' communication by mentioning how I'm feeling and my favourite things from what we just experienced and if appropriate what I would love to experience next time with them. Sometimes, people don't feel comfortable expressing themselves straight away or at all which is completely a-okay but I like to leave the option there.
Depending on your communication style, you and your partner may have a in-depth chat about your shared experience or it may just be a few sentences. I think it's wonderful to open the lines of communication between yourselves and see what you did/didn't like or would want more/less of next time.
Here are some commonly asked questions and things that are thrown around a lot....
Why should I hire a professional rather than ask the attractive guy/girl who I see at the gym/coffee shop/bar.
I think we've all heard the term "don't shit where you eat" and nothing crumbles a community/relationship more than when jealousy appears or trust is broken. A escort is a professional companion, someone who is there to show up, create a safe, fun intimate space and leave you in bliss. Due to the professional nature, there is security and peace of mind in knowing that once our booking is over, its over. On another note, it can be a fun thing for you and your partner to do together, choosing a escort that is appealing to both of you, opening up the lines of communication around lust.
My partner and I have never discussed a threesome...what should I do as I want to experience one with them.
Firstly, do not surprise your partner with a threesome or coerce them into participating in one. You need to bring up the conversation in a neutral space, ask them if they have ever had any interest in a threesome. If there answer is YES, explore what a threesome looks like to them, what they'd like to experience with you and go from there. If their answer is NO, respect it. In some situations, you can explore the reasons and understand the NO answer but not in a demanding or pushy way. Communication is key, remember, they may have had prior experiences not go well, feel threatened by the idea of someone else or they simply enjoy their sex life exclusively with you, which is a-okay and their personal boundary.
Who/how should we choose?
This is 100% personal preference, depending on what you physically and mentally like. Read through profiles and narrow it down to your top 3 , then choose your favourite. If you can't decide, sleep on it then reach out to your chosen provider the next day, the one you think about first. It's all about vibes and communication.
What is the best way to experience a first time threesome?
Book a hotel room and don't be intoxicated!
While its wonderful to come and visit a incall, I think its perfect to have some space away from your living situation and make a night of it. I love being able to visit a couple at a hotel, have a saucy experience with and slink away leaving you two to continue your night. Its very role-play romantic and I think makes the experience even more steamy and naughty!
A little drink to calm the nerves is fine but if you/your partner are drunk, boundaries can be blurred and you may not have a genuine or great experience.
I hope that's given you some insight or some things to think about.
xxo
Genevieve
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